Well, it seems that in the M3 phone's OS the DTMF setting supports all 3 available options: In-Band, SIP Info and RFC2833.
The above info can be found under the SIP section of the Snom m3/Online Manual. So in your case, try to set the RFC2833 option, both on the M3 phones' web interface, as well as at the "dtmfmode" in their associated extensions.
If you can't find the appropriate setting, on the M3 web interface, let me know and we will try to help you.